Indian Marriage System- was a system where everything used to be arranged by parents. From prospective bride to prospective groom, everything was arranged by parents. Now with the advent of MNCs, education things have changed rapidly in last decade. Working women are making the difference, both positive and negative. If I say negative I might sound like Male Chauvinist, but for every pro there is a cons according to me. So, to be fair I have to look at both the aspects.
Some of the positives are that working women are providing support to their husbands, jobs in private sector no more provide feeling of security/stability as public sector did. So, in case of husbands' job loss, women are there to provide him cushion during the tough times.Some positives for Women themselves is that they are independent, they can take decision independently, they no longer have to ask for money for every minute thing they need from their husbands as it used to be. They can also help their family build on resources like property, Saving funds etc. So, in this way there are lot of positives, we ought to follow the western world.
Now we discuss the negatives, the first negative is that things are getting delayed.Women are getting educated, getting settled in their career like Male counterparts. Their decision to marry is taken after lot of thinking which from one angle is a good thing. On the other side it is delaying marriages, lot of people are getting married after 30s, which can be good from the perspective of Maturity. Here is the catch, when people mature they also get rigid, they have more expectations and think a lot. When they think a lot, then things further get delayed. When you take decision of marriage at the age of 25 you don't think about so many things at that tender age.
Now you must be wondering what is the harm in delaying the marriage, the harm is that in the modern times there is lot more stress. Male fertility problems are on a rise and so are female's. When you delay marriage you also need to start family sooner than later because of the age factor, so you don't get time to live as a couple, you immediately get a new member which adds up to the responsibility. You did not enjoy the period in between marriage and starting up a family.Not only this, everything gets delayed, your responsibilities for your child get fulfilled at old age of 65-70.
In short we are following Western world, but we also have to think about our Indian traditions.In Western world , when children grow up to the age of 20-22, they are no longer parents' responsibility. Here, it would not be the same, children remain responsibility of parents. If we have to follow Western world we should follow them completely, half measures won't do. We will still have to spend our money for our kids' marriages unlike western counterparts.
My strong opinion about this is that changes are taking into effect form last decade, so this is the transition phase, this generation will serve role model for next one, where things will be more settled.
In the end I would say decision is yours, follow whichever system but follow it completely. There is no harm in following Western world, but pros and cons must be seen. Why work from home is gaining popularity in western world? Why more and more women opting for it, definitely there are some adjustments to be made. If packaged food is the answer, then the cancer is the question for it, if independence is the answer, fragile relations is the question, if security, stability are the answers, then child care, happiness are the questions, if maturity is the answer, then old age is the question, finally if happiness , healthy life are the answers then there are no questions. There is no harm in going for this change but not at the cost of happiness.
I would not like to conclude at all, the decision is yours. I would not like to be rigid, everybody's life is different, there are different situations, different problems, so its upto each couple (not individual) to decide. I would only recommend that your decision should be made as a couple not individual, as you are no longer an individual, to live a blissful life.
Some of the positives are that working women are providing support to their husbands, jobs in private sector no more provide feeling of security/stability as public sector did. So, in case of husbands' job loss, women are there to provide him cushion during the tough times.Some positives for Women themselves is that they are independent, they can take decision independently, they no longer have to ask for money for every minute thing they need from their husbands as it used to be. They can also help their family build on resources like property, Saving funds etc. So, in this way there are lot of positives, we ought to follow the western world.
Now we discuss the negatives, the first negative is that things are getting delayed.Women are getting educated, getting settled in their career like Male counterparts. Their decision to marry is taken after lot of thinking which from one angle is a good thing. On the other side it is delaying marriages, lot of people are getting married after 30s, which can be good from the perspective of Maturity. Here is the catch, when people mature they also get rigid, they have more expectations and think a lot. When they think a lot, then things further get delayed. When you take decision of marriage at the age of 25 you don't think about so many things at that tender age.
Now you must be wondering what is the harm in delaying the marriage, the harm is that in the modern times there is lot more stress. Male fertility problems are on a rise and so are female's. When you delay marriage you also need to start family sooner than later because of the age factor, so you don't get time to live as a couple, you immediately get a new member which adds up to the responsibility. You did not enjoy the period in between marriage and starting up a family.Not only this, everything gets delayed, your responsibilities for your child get fulfilled at old age of 65-70.
In short we are following Western world, but we also have to think about our Indian traditions.In Western world , when children grow up to the age of 20-22, they are no longer parents' responsibility. Here, it would not be the same, children remain responsibility of parents. If we have to follow Western world we should follow them completely, half measures won't do. We will still have to spend our money for our kids' marriages unlike western counterparts.
My strong opinion about this is that changes are taking into effect form last decade, so this is the transition phase, this generation will serve role model for next one, where things will be more settled.
In the end I would say decision is yours, follow whichever system but follow it completely. There is no harm in following Western world, but pros and cons must be seen. Why work from home is gaining popularity in western world? Why more and more women opting for it, definitely there are some adjustments to be made. If packaged food is the answer, then the cancer is the question for it, if independence is the answer, fragile relations is the question, if security, stability are the answers, then child care, happiness are the questions, if maturity is the answer, then old age is the question, finally if happiness , healthy life are the answers then there are no questions. There is no harm in going for this change but not at the cost of happiness.
I would not like to conclude at all, the decision is yours. I would not like to be rigid, everybody's life is different, there are different situations, different problems, so its upto each couple (not individual) to decide. I would only recommend that your decision should be made as a couple not individual, as you are no longer an individual, to live a blissful life.
